This
Saturday, a flat-mate of mine has called me on my cell-phone, “Hey, is the bedroom
occupied today?” I knew his purpose behind the enquiry still I asked, “Why do
you want the bedroom free?”
“For
the same reason a man live for. Please have it unoccupied for a couple of hours.”
He requested and kept the call.
He
hadn’t come home that night, I understood he must have met someone somewhere
and this generally takes place when weekend is around the corner. When he had arrived
with his girl, he found my laptop and me along with music system in the hall.
His girl and he both entered bedroom and quickly but softly shut the door
behind. I followed both of them entering bedroom with grounded heads and inflicted
smiles which carried a tinge of shy or perhaps guilt – not sure. Why sex is a
taboo, I thought, when it seemed to everyone as though a basic human need.
Well, intercourse bring pleasure to both Adam and Eve, however, despite of it
lot of other strings are tied to it and without those threads no Adam or Eva
can indeed reach the pleasure of intercourse.
I
generally find two kind of sex in the world – one which is love induced and
other, which is body induced. Love induced sex is accepted and seen with
respect in the society given social terms & conditions carried out in
advance. However, the body induced sex is forbidden in so called civilized society.
But to keep the balance in societal globe body induced sex which is commonly
known by the names of extra-marital affairs, prostitution, and gigolos are
essential. Though, body induced sex is interdicted, it existed in the most
civilized corners of every civilization, known by the name of Red-Light-Area
which had been formed and maintained to quench the sexual thirst of body.
If
sex as a whole is really that important then why is it seemed as taboo, why is
it not accepted as love – after all love induced sex is a byproduct of love and
it’s essential ingredient of love. When mind loves someone it indicates that
love by pouring out emotions and feelings. But, what about body – how body
indicates its love for some other body? I believe it’s the touch by which body
indicates its love for another body and to confirm the same love it has to have
sex with that body. Well, body doesn’t think or make radical decisions, it needs
whatever it needs, after all body has got some needs which has to be fulfilled such
like brain which needs love and it achieves it by finding love, once, twice,
thrice…depending on person to person.
Let’s
paint sex on a larger canvas and what we find is that it is a bodily act of
love where it doesn’t single out anyone on any lines. I am not talking in line with
the great love stories of Romeo-Juliet or Heer-Ranjha or Sohni-Mahiwaal. What I
am saying is if sex by love-need is justifiable then why not sex by bodily-need.
Nevertheless, it’s the body that does it and brings all pleasure to brain and
logics of love. If satisfaction is a mere state of mind then in sex it is
achieved by body, doesn’t matter if it was love induced sex or body induced, because
sex is sex and it has its own sovereign importance.
Many
times sex is seen as an act of expression. Sometimes to know the passion of
love one has to go through the act of sex, not by the chit-chatting. Sometimes
real, unaltered emotion can only be experienced in the act of sex. Most people
hide their emotion in daily life but this act of hiding doesn’t work for them
when they indulge in sex. If the bodily act of sex brings so much truth about oneself
in the light from darkness then considering it as taboo is an act of hiding,
lying and deceit.
I
don’t know on what terms our societal threads have been woven but there is a
thread of sex which sometimes, I believe is wronging placed in the fabric of
civilization. People don’t generally deceit for love but for sex. I guess that
need of having bedroom available for couple of hours by my friend was to
achieve that truth about his own love, passion and oneself. He must have lied a
couple of things to that girl and the girl must have lied a couple of things to
him based on the fact that sex in civilized corner of world is a taboo. If it
wasn’t a taboo then they must have not lied about a single thing to each other.
Doesn’t matter if they hide some truth or not but they achieved their momentarily
truth by indulging in the act of sex. There, they were true to each other, no
matter if it stayed like that only a quarter of an hour.
